New cafes in Aberdeen

In the few years we’ve been away from Aberdeen it seems like quite a few cool new cafes have opened up — which makes me feel much better about moving back here since I spend quite a bit of time working from these sorts of places :-)

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In particular I really like how many new places are decorating their interiors with white walls, washed out woods, and very light pastel colours. It makes for so much more light and airy rooms than the traditional dark, wood-panelled pubs.

Today we had brunch at Cup Cafe on Little Belmont Street. The food was lovely but the best bit was the bathrooms! It was like falling down Alice’s rabbit hole:

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Follow-up “right the fuck now”

Yesterday I tuned in to the Business of Software hangout with Steli Efti of Close.io who spoke about sales in startups.

I hadn’t really come across his stuff before so after it was done I checked out his blog and really like his post about making sure you follow-up on leads “right the fuck now” :-)

When you’ve got a qualified prospect on the phone, there’s one thing you always want to do before you end the call: Initiate the next step!

Do it right then and there while you still have them on the phone, not by telling them how much you enjoyed speaking with them, not by agreeing to talk again soon (someday), not by sending them a follow up email.

Use the power of right fucking now to get the thing done.

Read the full post on his blog here.

Brains, boobs and no balls: Banning Facebook doesn’t solve anything.

The Independent reports today that following ETC CEO Philip Rizzo’s blatantly sexist comments on Facebook directed at one of his managers he has banned Facebook use “for senior management”.

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The reason apparently is that according to Minister Bartolo:

he is not a sexist person and that he respects his colleagues and, in fact, I think from his perspective he thought he was passing a compliment.

There are two types of sexism. There is the blatant in your face kind where an employer might ask for sexual favours (at worst) and then there is the kind where the offender “meant no harm, was making a joke, and in fact thought he was passing a compliment”.

In many cases the latter is worse particularly if the person in question is a publicly appointed official in a senior position and responsible for employment and training.

Banning the use of Facebook is actually a terrible thing from a transparency point of view because it simply puts the problem behind closed doors. Nothing is actually changing: the Minister is simply asking his top officials to “not have this sort of presence on Facebook”. The implication being that its fine to do it elsewhere, say at the water cooler, in a staff meeting, or in setting national policy — just not in public.

While the correct course of action should have clearly been to dismiss Mr Rizzo, failing that Mr Bartolo could have at least opted to:

  • Issue a stern warning that this sort of behaviour is not acceptable by any government employee, on or off Facebook.
  • Launch an investigation into the matter to determine whether this attitude is prevalent among ETC management.
  • Mandate that Mr Rizzo (and possibly other senior staff) attend a sexual harassment training course or similar.

But perhaps that’s too much for “the most feminist government ever“.

My Daughter Asleep, by David Whyte

A touching poem by David Whyte that a mere seven months ago would have been unremarkable to me yesterday left me speechless.


Carrying a child,
I carry a bundle of sleeping
future appearances.
I carry
my daughter adrift
on my shoulder,
dreaming her slender
dreams
and
I carry her
beneath
the window,
watching
her moon lit
palm
open
and close
like a tiny
folded
map,
each line
a path that leads
where I can’t go,
so that I read her palm
not knowing
what I read

and
walk with her
in moon light
on the landing,
not knowing
with whom I walk,
making
invisible prayers
to go on
with her
where I can’t
go,
conversing
with so many
unknowns
that must know her
more intimately
than I do.

And so to these
unspoken shadows
and this broad night
I make
a quiet
request
to the
great parental
darkness
to hold her
when I cannot,
to comfort her
when I am gone,
to help her learn
to love
the unknown
for itself,
to take it
gladly
like
a lantern
for the way
before her,
to help her see
where ordinary
light will not help her,
where happiness has fled,
where faith
cannot reach.

Read the rest on David’s Facebook page

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To My Girlfriends: How to be an Independent Woman in a Relationship

Richard Muscat:

A great post by Sara on financial and emotional independence. Aimed at women in “traditional” relationships but I think also applies generally to anyone in any relationship.

If you’re happy and confident in yourself you’ll make a better partner.

Originally posted on When I Have Time by Sara Rosso:

How to Be an Independent Woman in a Relationship - When I Have Time by Sara Rosso

I’ve been lucky to have great girlfriends in my life, many of whom have been in relationships now for a decade or more, or several relationships acrossseveral decades. They’re married, single, divorced, single mothers, married with children, married never wanting children, living with their partners, doing long distance relationships, or just doing their thing.

Each relationship is incredibly different, just like each woman is incredibly different. Talking to them through the years, however, and through my own experience, it’s become clearer to me that there are some things all women in any relationship could be doing to nourish their independence in parallel while still being committed to the relationship.

You can love wholeheartedly and also be responsible about your future. Loving and trusting someone is not mutually exclusive with investing inyourself and and enriching your independence.

And most importantly, a relationship doesn’t have to have even a hint of discord…

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Freedom of Speech at WordPress.com

The folks at the Electronic Frontier Foundation (EFF) publish reports evaluating the privacy practices of various internet companies. WordPress.com received a perfect 5 on 5 score in their annual Who Has Your Back report as well as a perfect 5 on 5 score on the Intellectual Property Who Has Your Back report.

We also note that some services have gone above and beyond the evaluation criteria in this report. Automattic, the parent company behind WordPress, has filed lawsuits in response to abusive takedown requests.

This makes WordPress.com the only service to score a perfect 10/10 across both of the EFF’s surveys.

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